Wouldn’t it be nice to know what your spouse, your friend, your kids, your boss thinks? We have rules that govern our lives. We have unwritten rules that we live by. The more we know these rules, the more we know a person. The more I understand my rules, the more I know myself.⁣⁣

The way to know these rules is to bring them to the surface. To find out what your spouse thinks, ask, “What should a spouse be or do for his partner?” Now shut up and listen carefully to the answer. Ask your children: “What should a father be or do for his son?” Ask your friend, “what should a friend be or do for his friends?” To get to know or understand someone, ask this simple question, and then… prepare to be surprised.⁣